A crying baby? But no, impossible, never seen! We have all been confronted with this problem: my baby cries as soon as I put him down, on his bed, in the crib, the stroller, in the mud, the washing machine... In short, he is no longer in your arms and instantly starts to cry.
Frustrating? Yes. Normal? Also! You don't suck, crying is normal for a baby. So find out the potential reasons for his crying and what to do about it.
Why does baby cry as soon as I put him down?
Baby's crying is the only means of expression he has and it's not there to annoy you. His purpose is not to make your ears bleed or drain your soul (though).
Many reasons for this:
- Baby has trouble falling asleep or just doesn't need to (that's the case where you put him down for a nap or sleep)
- Baby simply needs attention! And yes, an infant needs more presence and some babies have more difficulty than others to stay alone without the arms of Daddy and Mommy
What can be done to stop baby crying?
Give him attention
Your child does not have the capacity to throw tantrums, his brain is too immature. If he's clamoring for your attention, it's because he needs it. Letting him cry will only make him more anxious about your bond and will do no good. We know you often hear "But let him cry, it won't kill him". Effectively, it won't kill him but it will have a bad impact on his emotional development.
So you need to reassure him by meeting his needs: the key is to give him the confidence to take on (some) independence.
He's clamoring for your arms? Take him.
Wearing in a sling or baby carrier is a suitable solution for both of you: baby is reassured against you while leaving your hands free to carry on with your activities.
Baby is fulfilled and you remain mobile and able to do what you want to do, OUF! (We know how tiring this can be but you signed up for this hihi)
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Baby cries when you put him in the crib
Generally, it's due to a sleep disorder (really?). So the trick is going to be to create a routine to get him to sleep.
- Try to limit baby's naps: if baby sleeps less during the day, he'll need it more at night!
- Create a stable rhythm: choose a regular time to put him to bed and thus create a routine where baby and his body will get used to
- Create the environment where even an insomniac will want to sleep : temperature, light, nursery rhyme, music... Everyone has their own preferences, it's up to you to find baby's
The strategies are endless to get him to sleep and stop his crying, courage.
Gradually, Baby will gain confidence and feel able to stay alone for longer periods. Allow him moments to explore his environment alone when he doesn't ask to be carried in your arms while being available to respond quickly to his needs.
You show him that you have confidence in him while giving him confidence in you. So you take it easy (that's all you can do anyway)!
Then, when he's 13 and ashamed of you kissing him in front of his buddies, you'll be very sorry that he's clingy! (yes yes yes)
If baby cries ALL THE TIME, this article should interest and save you. And if you are interested in by attachment theory, this article should interest you.