A crying baby? But no, impossible, never seen! We've all been confronted with this problem: my baby cries as soon as I put them down, on their bed, in the crib, the stroller, in the mud... In short, they're no longer in your arms and immediately starts crying.
Frustrating? Yes. Normal? Also! You're not useless, crying is normal for a baby. So discover the potential reasons for their crying and what to do about it.
Why does baby cry as soon as I put them down?
Crying is one of the means of expression that your young baby has and is not there to annoy you. Their goal is not to make your ears bleed or drain your soul (well).
Several possible reasons for this:
- Baby is in a more or less agitated falling asleep phase or was interrupted in a light sleep phase
- Baby "smelled" the scent of milk, is hungry or thirsty this little glutton
- Baby is in a digestion phase with some difficulties or pain, previously massaged by your warmth and movements, they find themselves without help
- Baby has unknown or uncomfortable sensations (stuffy nose, hot, cold, teething)
What to do so baby stops crying?
Give them attention, reassure them, explain the context...
You must therefore reassure them by meeting their needs: it's all about giving them the necessary confidence so they can gain (a little) independence.
They seem to be asking for your arms? You can pick them up to see if this meets their need.
Babywearing in a wrap or baby carrier is a solution suited to both of you: baby is reassured against you while leaving your hands free to continue your activities.
Baby is satisfied and you remain mobile and able to do what you want, PHEW! (We know how tiring this can be but you signed up for this hehe)
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Baby cries when put down in bed
Baby falls asleep on you and wakes up as soon as you put them in bed? Generally, it's related to sleep (really?): a light/agitated sleep phase or the fact that your baby may not yet be quite able to sleep alone. It can also be due to a small sleep regression: a normal period where baby sleeps less well, wakes up more and needs more proximity. Babywearing can then really help them feel reassured.
You may read this type of advice, but frankly NO.
- Try to limit baby's naps: if baby sleeps less during the day, they'll need it more at night! -> forcing your child to stay awake when they want to sleep?
- Create a stable rhythm: choose a regular time to put them to bed and thus create a routine where baby and their body will get used to it -> baby will have their own rhythm and it would be up to us parents to observe their rhythm and respect it
- Create the environment where even an insomniac would want to sleep: temperature, light, nursery rhyme, music... Everyone has their preferences, it's up to you to find your baby's -> generally it's the parent that the nursery rhymes/music will condition: have you noticed that we take on a more soothing, softer voice and were ourselves calmer? So yes, it can help, thanks to our own behavior :)
The strategies are endless to put them to sleep and stop their crying, courage.
Baby falls asleep on you and wakes up as soon as you put them in bed? They have trouble staying alone? Little by little, baby will gain confidence and feel capable of staying alone for longer periods and gradually will fall asleep alone. Give them moments to explore their environment alone when they don't ask to be held while remaining available to quickly respond to their needs.
You show them that you have confidence in them while giving them confidence in you. So be patient (you can't do anything else anyway)!
Then, when they're 13 years old and ashamed that you kiss them in front of their friends, you'll really miss their clingy side! (yes yes yes)
If baby cries ALL THE TIME, this article should interest you and save you. Then if you're interested in attachment theory, it's this article that will interest you :)